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More than memory: embracing connection beyond death
This post is the essence of a presentation I provided for the lovely people at the St. Albert Bereavement Fellowship, on Tuesday 8th September, 2026. Image: Andrea C Taylor - Unsplash Continuing Bonds A continuing bond is defined as the presence of an ongoing inner relationship with the deceased person by the bereaved individual. Stroebe & Schut, 2005 The Continuing Bonds theory of grief proposes that a healthy, adaptive response to the loss of a loved one does not require “l
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Sep 96 min read
The Myth of Grief 'Recovery'
Yes - I am aware of the “grief recovery method”. This post is not a critique of that program but rather an exploration of the idea that...
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Mar 30, 20253 min read
Growing Around Grief
This post is the essence of an interactive session I provided for the lovely people at the St. Albert Bereavement Fellowship, on Tuesday 9th April, 2024. In 1996, a Dr. Lois Tonkin – a grief counsellor, educator and writer from New Zealand, who died in 2019 – published an article in which she told the story of being in a workshop with a mother whose child had died some years before. The woman had made a series of drawings to show the difference between how she’d imagined her
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Apr 13, 20244 min read
Adapting to our Changing Home
I recently learned a new word: solastalgia. Coined by Glenn Albrecht, an Australian philosopher, solastalgia is a combination of sōlācium...
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Jun 22, 20233 min read
Unbroken Bonds of Love
Last night, the theme of the seven-week bereavement support group I am currently facilitating, was: Continuing Bonds. In...
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Apr 6, 20234 min read